The breakdown of a relationship can leave you feeling lost and lonely, unable to make even simple decisions about your life. In some cases this can lead to stress and anxiety. Holly’s life started to spiral downwards after breaking up with her wife but then an unexpected job opportunity came along.
I didn’t know anyone, I didn’t have any friends, didn’t have much money, didn’t even have any furniture in the flat.
Holly is originally from London. After moving to Margate with her wife to make a fresh start, their relationship disintegrated. Holly’s wife moved back to London and Holly was left alone in a strange town. Holly had suffered with mental health issues on and off throughout her life but this recent break up sent her spiralling downwards into depression.
I just felt really hopeless, everything had gone wrong, my marriage had collapsed and I didn’t have a job. I really couldn’t see how things were going to get better. But I also didn’t know how to stop things getting worse. I blamed myself for everything. At the time, I thought I was a terrible person and I just wanted to talk through that and just try and pick myself back up. But I knew I couldn’t do it on my own.
I was so grateful for the person I spoke to on reception – they were so friendly and warm, they made the process really comfortable.
At first, Holly found the treatment very challenging and didn’t turn up for some of her sessions. However, eventually, she attended eight one-to-one cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) sessions which she says completely turned her life around.
It was a real breakthrough for me and the stuff I learned was incredible. I wouldn’t be where I am today without it. The techniques I learned to cope with everything were amazing. We worked out I have quite entrenched thoughts about the way I see myself and CBT actually helped me unpick that. I still use the CBT techniques now.
Six months after beginning the CBT, Holly turned a corner and found a job posted on the Internet for Duty Manager at Thinkaction in Margate. The role was primarily taking referrals on the phone and booking people onto the same initial assessment she had been through herself.
Holly believes that experiencing Thinkaction’s mental health services first hand really helped her excel in her Duty Manager role.
I’m patient and understanding with the people who call because I’ve been in their shoes.
Now, after a year as Duty Manager, Holly is training to be a Psychological Wellbeing Practitioner (PWP). After a year she will be qualified to help make assessments and carry out one-to-one sessions.
Holly wants to stay in Margate after her training is over and hopes to get a full time position but as she’s learned through this whole process, it’s great to concentrate on what you can change in the present moment.
All I’m focused on now is completing the course. I really want to succeed and be a good PWP. If I can do that, then I’m going to be okay.